For all you guys out there wondering how to get a girlfriend, the first thing you need to ask yourself is what is a woman looking for in a man? Women are programmed to think, feel, and react a certain way when it comes to finding the right kind of man for her. She knows what to look for to make herself feel safe, comfortable, and happy. So lets go over a few of those things women are looking for in a man, and find out the mistakes many men make when interacting with women.
Confidence. You could be the smartest, funniest, most good looking guy in the world, but if you don’t portray yourself as confident then forget any chances of having a real relationship with a women. That may sound harsh, but women need a confident man in their lives who can love himself for who he is. Not a man who is in love with himself, and who is arrogant and thinks he is God’s gift to women. But a man who takes care of himself, the people in his life, and who makes decisions on a constant basis without second guessing himself.
Personality. Again, no matter how good looking you are, if you can’t carry on a conversation with women, and make them feel that you care about what they’re saying then your chances of finding a great girl are slim. Talk about her and what interests her, and make her laugh. Don’t be the usual boring guy most women have to deal with.
Physical Appearance. You don’t have to be a male model to get a woman to notice you. But you do need to take care of yourself and the way you look. Meaning a nicely trimmed beard or goatee, rather than the Grissly Adams look, may get you further with women. Not dressing like a homeless person when going out in public. A nice button up shirt with jeans, or even a nice name brand t-shirt that fits and isn’t three sizes to big will get you noticed quicker.
Sense of Humor. Every woman is attracted to a man with a sense of humor. You absolutely cannot take everything so seriously in life. Learn to make fun of things, and yourself, but in a confident way. Not in a way that makes you look like your insecure, and that you don’t think to highly of yourself. You must do it in a way that says you’re secure with who you are, and that you find it humorous that this certain incident happened to you. Remember, be confident.
So where do you meet a girl that you can share your time with. You can check out the free dating sites where many people have found relationships. The big thing is to get out and meet people. It’s a scary thought, especially if you’re shy or a home body. But how do you expect to find someone if you’re never out meeting new people? Women don’t magically appear. Get to know the friends of your friends more often. Go to public places like dog parks, gyms, grocery stores, clothes stores, malls, and so on. The more people you meet, the better your chances are. And the better chance you have of new friends hooking you up with one of their friends.
You can practice talking to as many women as possible. Make friends with them before looking to get a girlfriend. Practice makes perfect. Making good friends with lots of women will help your conversation skills, and help you learn about how women think. This will also help you feel less lonely in your life. Make as many friends as possible, and don’t make excuses to not talk to people. You’re missing your chances of finding someone special. The worst she can say is “no” and walk away. No big deal. Don’t get discouraged and keep trying.
I discourage people from meeting girlfriends or boyfriends at bars. If you’re going out with a group of friends to a bar or club and a new girl just happens to be in that group, that’s a different story. But to just go out to a bar or club to try and find a girlfriend usually doesn’t work out so well in the end. Bars are good places for a one night stand though, if that’s what you’re looking for.
Flirt with women and have fun. Flirting with women that you may be attracted to will help keep you from falling into the friend zone. What’s the friend zone you may ask? That’s where you’re friends with someone who you may have feelings for, but that other person doesn’t feel the same about you. They think of you as just a friend. So be playful and flirty, to help avoid the friend zone. And even if she still isn’t interested in you, she may be more likely to hook you up with a friend of hers. See how it’s good to have girls as friends?
Keep her interested all the time. Ask her questions about herself, and leave a little mystery about yourself. Don’t tell her your whole life story to soon. Be the one to end the conversation and keep her wanting more. She’ll want to talk to you more often to learn more about you and what makes you tick.
Be a gentleman at all times. Making disrespectful comments to women doesn’t make them attracted to you. Instead it turns them off and makes them never want to see or talk to you again. A woman wants a real man in her life, and the qualities of a man include respect, honesty, and generosity. Though some may think that being a real man means being the bad boy who doesn’t care what people think, this is far from the truth. If the woman you’re after wants the rebellious type, you may want to reconsider trying to start a relationship with this type of woman. It may not be the mature type of relationship you need, so be careful.
Be yourself, not who you think she wants you to be. If you feel a certain way, or have a different opinion about something, it’s okay to feel that way. Don’t agree with whatever she says if you feel it isn’t moral or justified. She wants you to have your own opinions and to be honest with her. She wants a man who will stand up for what he believes in, not someone who does and says what she wants. If she does want someone who will respond to her every command, or agree with whatever she says then you need to move on. That’s not something you need in your life. Remember, be a man.
When you do ask a girl for her number, or ask her to go on a date, never look desperate. The last thing a woman wants is a desperate, needy man in her life. Women like to challenge men and play hard to get, but they don’t want a man who begs. They like little dogs that beg because they think it’s cute. But a man who begs will turn any woman off. Remember the whole confidence thing. Being confident includes a man being okay with who he is, and not making a big deal out of a woman shooting him down.